You say that we have to let go of some of our control and, instead, place our feminine side on the front line.
I’ve heard a lot of women say, “I may appear to be very strong and aggressive, but actually I do want to be looked after and nurtured.” Based on your advice, women must let their true selves come out to make that partnership connection. If you can find your true femininity, you should let it out.
Lisa: We all grew up through the years of the women’s lib movement. This reminded me of a sign I had on my desk when I was in the working world.
This was fantastic for getting us into the workplace and for getting us to use our brains again. You can do it better and you don’t need a man.” Now we do want men in our lives, but we don’t know how to relate to them because we weren’t taught that. It said, “A woman has to try twice as hard to be considered half as good as a man.
We should really understand that we don’t have to step on men. This is a whole different way of thinking, actually. We became masculine females, and this is not a powerful place to be.
We don’t have to dumb down, nor should we be doormats. In the very beginning, one of our goals in this community is to become independent. It doesn’t mean that we should accomplish it at the expense of receiving from people, rather than trying to do and give what we can. That’s why, when I write about this, a lot of women get very angry. It’s like pushing guys on the way up versus working together.
Join us as we discuss how to find love – or at least a little romance – in your 50s, 60s or better! This could be related to finding love again, after a life of disappointments or divorce. A lot of women in our community were raised through those decades.
Please tell us a little bit more about how this competition in the work place imbalanced the relationship between the strong alpha male and the receiving woman.Being a dating coach, it’s interesting that I do attract a lot of women in situations similar to my own. She had to meet a very high powered man for an important deal.I’ve been through the same thing and overcome the problem. However, in the past her relationship with him was painful because she could not get the deal sealed. She was competing with him, going in with facts and figures.Lisa: What was happening was that competition between men and women increased to a point where women couldn’t get into a partnership with men to work or live together. We thought we did everything so well that it was pretty much our way or the highway.My main goal is getting women into partnerships with men in both work and home.